Joann Ball, 21 years old
Last month, my best friend from home started dating one of my best friends at college. But it is still very strange to realize that my best friend now has someone else occupying his attention. I feel called to priesthood and the religious life, and that is a vocation that may take a long time to come to fruition. Meanwhile, here they are, taking the first step of a journey that could progress, flower, and come to friends dating each other, all before I even get out of seminary. I would love to raise a family. Why has God called me to take a different path, one which seems so hard and barren? This pattern of thinking can lead to frustration, which is then expressed by feeling irritated by the dating couple and criticizing them.
Till yesterday you were the happiest person to have both your best friends with you and suddenly you are not. Because both your friends dating each other friends are now a couple? Yes, they are dating. How weird is that?
The struggle can be all too real when two of your best friends start dating. They're your besties, so you know them like the back of your hand. And although you may be kind of excited for them at first, the anxiety eventually sets in. Sure, it can be crazy at first when two of your best friends start dating, but here are seven ways you can cope.
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When two of your close friends start dating, and you are left out, the last thing you should do is hate on them. Last week, Modern Manners Guy Facebook friend Lilly emailed me about how two of her closest friends, Sarah and Kiel, recently started dating, and now she friends dating each other left out. So what is she supposed to do, now that her group of three became a group of two? I told Lilly that this is not something new: friends in a group starting a romantic relationship separate from their peers. Our email exchange went back and forth, with me offering advice about how to properly handle the situation.
Two of my best friends recently friends dating each other dating each other, and while I am very stoked for them, I struggled a bit to come terms with it. On the other hand, I was worried their relationship might come in between our friendships. It makes things harder if you find out about their relationship from someone else, so be honest from the very beginning and tell your friends how you feel. Remember that they have feelings too and they might have hidden it from you because they were afraid of how you would react. Communicate with your best friends and tell them how you feel about them dating. Share your fears that you might lose the ability to hang out with them at the same time if they have a messy breakup. Hope that, if your best friends do break up, you can all still be friends.